Peace, love, and light fam. This time last year, I was announcing my engagement. Now, here I am single, free, sassy, enlightened, and evolving. I have learned so much since this time last year. For a while, I was sitting in a pile of regret—regret for letting the comfort of one person stop me from experiencing the love of another, regret for being so devoted to family that I sacrificed my life, regret from not pursuing the things that I love wholeheartedly, regret from not believing in my own power.

Now, I feel overwhelming levels of anticipation. I am so ready to start anew, leave all the regrets in the past, and move onward and upward into my life. I am excited really. With each new dawn lies a promise of another chance. I am allowing myself the freedom to pursue and experience all that I desire. Although I am a realist, I am so optimistic about my future and the future of everyone connected to me.

I have taken the last six months to truly reflect on my shortcomings, my failures, my mistakes. Somethings made me cry, some things made me angry, but mostly the reflection made me learn that accountability is so necessary for growth. I cannot play the victim. Each situation that happened only happened because I allowed it. We all have a hand in our own story. I am now choosing to rewrite it.

In the next few months, I will be moving and having new adventures. My tribe (my children) and I are planning some road trips. I am also going deeper into my spiritual practices because in all honesty, my practice is what keeps me rooted, grounded, and sane. I have work to do and I cannot pour from an empty vessel. I must keep myself healthy in all regards. I do hope all is well with everyone. Oh and before I forget, I started a new business that I am in the process of launching—True Transformation Life & Health Coaching Services!!! I am ready to help others find their balance and love the life they live. So, until next time, sending you all high vibrations of peace, love, joy, and abundance…..



Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali

Short and Sweet

Peace, love, and light fam. It is the day of love for many. A day filled with cards, candies, flowers, and stuffed bears, candlelight dinners, overcrowded restaurants, and booked hotel rooms. And although I do not celebrate Valentine’s Day, I choose to reflect on loves in my life and the overall overwhelming energy of the day. I will definitely be carrying my rose quartz crystal on my person today (lol). Anywho, I wanted to share a poem I wrote some time ago about the flirtations of new love……

Eyes met and that was a wrap
What can I say?
You got it like that
Have me giddy
Blushing and shit
A wink does me in
Boy you need to quit!
When you ask me , I will come
When you need me, I will do
Let it be you for me and me for you
As headstrong as I am
As stubborn and as proud
I am putting it all aside
Hanging it up
Cause I know you won’t let
My mess slide
Your strength is my weakness
My dearest love
My most worthy opponent
We fit together perfectly
The best matched components


Have a beautiful day, whether you celebrate or not, love is and always will be an undeniable force.


Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali

Be Open

Peace, love, and light fam and happy happy Saturday! I hope you all are well, peaceful, and enjoying your weekend. I wanted to take time to share a word with you that seems to be a defining word in my life pattern—change. I used to be very change averse. I did not want to deviate from what was usual in my day and anything that occurred outside of what usually did caused me much heartburn. I mean my attitude would go from Sunnyside up to El Nino lol!

But, now I realize being fluid and open to change is so much more rewarding and allows for me to experience more abundance and overall inner peace. I have said in the past that we should embrace change as a friend, even though change is often difficult. Over the past six months, so much has happened that has not been what most people would feel is good or positive. And I am still going through a lot. However, instead of focusing on the uncomfortableness of this situation, I am taking it all in as lessons. I have found more strength to be with myself. We often run from ourselves, choosing to remain in relationships so as not to be confronted with the truth of who we are. I see myself, flaws and all, and I love her. She has grown much and still is.

I encourage you to find your silver lining. Even though the tears, hurt feelings, the overall pruning experienced through change. I listened to a dear SiStar explain the process diamonds and gems go through before being sold. They must be buffed and shaved and polished in order to shine as brightly as they can. So, as the diamond is cut, so must we be. Do not be afraid to allow your light to shine. Each trial, tribulation, and lesson is buffing you and bringing you into the fullness of your own brilliant inner light. Shine on! Embrace change. Sometimes the best things in life come from what we may feel is unnecessary change. Be open and receive.

Be Your Awesome Self!

Peace peace everyone! I do hope you are enjoying your day/week.  I must admit that this week has been quite challenging and I have had to put my spiritual practices to work in order not to fall into a depression. I know that this is a blog but it is also my diary and I feel comfortable enough within my space and self to keep it all the way funky.

I have said it before and I will say it again, family is NOT defined by blood, meaning that I have family is of no blood relation to me and I have relatives that are not family. It is a very bitter pill for me as I have always, always had a huge amount of love for my blood family. However, I am seeing that my feelings are not going to be reciprocated from some of them and I just have to swallow it and not allow it to make me bitter. I have been ostracized for embracing my cultural roots, for stepping away from tradition that was not serving my higher purpose, for shunning faith for facts, for speaking on injustice, for changing how I eat, even for teaching my children Yoruba phrases (if you can believe that one!).

And the relatives in which I am referring to are quite close, not like a 2nd cousin, twice removed or anything. But, you know what? It is their loss. I am an awesome person and I am not saying that to sound big headed. I have overcome so much and still maintain a high level of integrity and humbleness. I have done great work in my community and am continuing to do so. I am also nowhere near to being done with my self-work. I am working on becoming my greatest version daily.

So, why do I share with you my business? Because I am sure that someone in your family or even friend groups who has treated you poorly for no apparent reason other than you being you. Because most of us have felt like the black sheep at some point (some of us more than others). But mostly because I want to let you know that you are awesome as well! And do not allow anyone to tell you any different. The messages that others give us about what is supposedly wrong with us can sabotage us, stunt our growth, and cause us to give up before we have even begun—often without us even knowing. The subconscious mind is mighty indeed! The things they have said use to play repeatedly in my mind but no more! I changed the tape. Remember we are creators and we have control. We must write our own stories. If someone else has the pen, snatch it from their damn hands!  So, from this day forward, I want you to look in the mirror into your eyes and say “I am enough”. Simple right? Simple and yet poignant. You are absolutely enough! Have a beautiful day….



Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali

Moving Forward

Peace, peace. I do hope this post finds you well. This weekend has been quite eventful. My family and I celebrated my oldest daughter’s 11th bEarthday so you can imagine the running around that I had to do . Luckily for me, my daughter did not have many bEarthday wishes so I was able to make her smile and spend some much-needed quality time with the Tribe (my name for my children).

Well, near the end of last year, I made some changes to my plans for this year—major changes and I have dedicated much of my down time to reflection, self-work, womb work, meditation, yoga, exercise, etc. I am doing the work to allow me to continue to work for others and help others reach their highest potential. Through the periods of self-reflection, I have had to deal with some issues and emotions that are not very pleasant—feelings of regret, stagnation, hurt, disappointment. But, I am doing so much better and am feeling more grounded than I ever have before. I realize that if I am going to do the work that I came to do , I must heal myself, work  on myself, and continue to push the limits of myself.

Through this journey, I have unfortunately lost people and at times caused others to feel hostile towards me. It is obvious to me that I evidently am doing something right for people to be up in arms about my lifestyle. I am unapologetic about the path I have chosen and I am going to be going even deeper this year and going forward. There are people who are cheering for me, seeking me for guidance, and searching for me all simultaneously. I much rather focus on the positive aspects of my so called unconventional lifestyle than the negativity that seemingly attempts to evade my sacred space. So, I will continue to carry crystals in my pocket, sage my space when needed, meditate, give offerings to ancestors, be guided by the moon, and commune with the Sun. I am on a journey and it is just beginning…..




Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali

Peace 2016!

Wow I have to say that this year gone by quite rapidly! We are literally staring the year 2017 down the throat and I am super HYPE!! But before I continue, let me just say that I hope you all are well and as always much love and peace to you. Now, about the coming year, I am not one for resolutions but I felt compelled to challenge myself to a few things in the new year.

  1. I challenge myself to take more risks. I admittedly have played it safe in the past but this coming year will be a year of me stepping outside of the norm—going places I have never been, meeting new people, eating new foods, trying new things. Opening yourself to new experiences allows you to grow in different ways. And I realize I have again grown comfortable so I know it’s time to do something different.
  2. I challenge myself to continue to seek new opportunities to give back to my community. This year, I have found it very challenging to be as active as I was in the city. I now reside in a very rural area and if you are not aligned with a church, often you are shunned or questioned but I am stepping up to the challenge and breaking the status quo. My people need me and I plan to do various community service projects throughout the year.
  3. I challenge myself to love more. In the past when I have loved, I have been hurt but hasn’t everyone. I will not allow past hurts and disappointments to hold me captive to my authentic self. I am genuinely loving and I have so so much to give. I will love on myself more first and foremost and will continue to love others as well.
  4. I challenge myself to be open to being alone. I know you may be thinking that why should one want to be alone but I say being alone and being lonely are two entirely different things. What can I say, life happens and I am fine with it but I know what I want and I will choose me before I settle for less than what I want and deserve. So, 2017 will be a year of finding more of me and being okay with that.
  5. I challenge myself to go deeper into my spirituality. Yes, I have an altar and give offerings, meditate, say affirmations, etc but I am not always consistent. It’s time for me to kick everything up a notch and go deeper.

As you can see, none of my challenges included me getting more money, more things, a new man, or anything tangible. My challenged are all about growth. I have grown to realize that the more I go inward and expand, the more my outer reality changes for the good. I do hope you all are thinking of your own growth and are actually interested in progressing. Because, if you are not moving forward, you are most definitely standing still! I am so happy you have chosen to read my blog, connect with me, and support me this year! Next year will be even better—just you watch!



Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali

Working On Self

Peace and love fam and happy Monday! As always, I hope you had an awesome day today. I have been in reflection mode. It seems more and more of my days are being spent this way—quietly in my own thoughts. Today, I was thinking about the value of stimulating conversation and being exposed to good, positive energy.

I realize that I have wasted so much precious time on meaningless conversations and interactions. I also realize that I have participated in these conversations and interactions and could have chosen to change subjects or removed myself and I didn’t. But, now that I know better, I must do better. I have been very fortunate to connect with some great people and in turn, my experiences have begun to improve. They challenge me to think, to explore, to love more, to be open to new experiences.

As this year comes to a close, I am focusing on doing better in many areas and working on improving myself. There are people who are not around anymore that I never would have imagined would be absent. There are new people in my life who I could have never imagined would be in my life. And I am grateful for it all. Life is very cyclical and I feel I am coming full circle. I am choosing experiences that will help me on my journey of self-improvement. It is time to focus on raising my vibration and maturation on my spiritual walk. If it doesn’t resonate with me, I must remove myself.

I have found so much joy in being more selective in who I choose to be in the company of and in doing the things that are in my best interest. I have had to become more selfish with myself. I am looking to gain energy from interactions that I am involved in. At a certain point, I became depleted because I was constantly giving to people who were not giving anything to me in return. And when I say giving, I do not mean gifts or anything tangible, I mean giving positivity and great energy back to me. Remember the old saying “you cannot pour from an empty vessel”?  Well, let’s just say my vessel only had a few drops left.

I am looking to begin 2017 on a high note—full of abundance, creativity, and progress. It is time to step into my own! I am acutely aware of the state of my people but I choose to shed light not throw shade. I am here to nurture, to heal, to guide, to love. I have so much work to do. But, before I can give all that I can and am, I have to be fully in tune with myself. Let the self work and growth continue!




Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali

Love Yourself Without Regret

Peace fam! Hope all is well. I woke up this morning feeling like “blah” lol. Have you ever gotten up from sleep feeling like doing nothing at all? Well, I call that feeling “blah” and that is exactly how I felt. There is so many things I should and could be doing but I just wasn’t feeling it at all. Nowadays when I feel like that, I allow myself space to chill. I am naturally a “workaholic” and often neglect myself by not getting proper rest. So, I allowed myself to just BE this morning.

Afrikan women are often expected to work and nurture and give without exhaustion, regret, or complaint. But, we need to learn how to just be. We need to sleep in some days, rest our minds and bodies, recharge our batteries, and be with ourselves unapologetically. As this year winds down, there is still much to do but one of the most important thing we can and should do is to reflect on where we are and also where we want to be. We need to nurture ourselves through the transitions in life lovingly.

When I was in my 20’s, I never slept properly. I worked hard, played harder, and slept hardly any at all. But, now that I am in my mid 30’s, I realize the havoc I was wreaking on my heart. My heart needs healing, from hurt and from lack of proper nourishment. On the journey to wellness, I found that although my physical body may look awesome, so much lies beneath that I need to work on. There is much I have not dealt with, heartaches that I ignored, rest that I have been deprived of.  So, as 2016 concludes, I have made a pact with myself to do the work necessary. Ashaki deserves to be loved by Ashaki. I will never become the greatest version of myself if I do not learn to love myself fully.

I want to encourage you to do the work necessary to reach the optimal level of health for yourself as well—emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually. You are a precious being and deserve the best! Rest more, love more, do what you love more. Give to yourself abundantly. And give to yourself without any regret!! Have an awesome weekend loves!



Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali

5 Year Loc Anniversary and So Much More!

Peace peace fam! Man oh man, what a crazy time this is. I have been attempting to write my celebratory post for my five year loc anniversary for almost three weeks now (crazy I know) but so much is going on so I am just going to do an update, speak on my growth, and some other topics that have been on my heart.

So, the week of Thanksgiving was my five year loc anniversary. My hair, my hair, my hair…what can I say? It is growing and I am thinking of combining , my locs —again. I love the thick look so we shall see. I have found that the manicured loc look is not for me at all. I love my knatty dreads, I love my thick roots, I love when they are unkempt, clean but unkempt lol. I am comfortable with myself finally. I am still growing and learning myself. I have learned that the process of self-discovery is a journey and that I will always be learning myself because I am constantly growing and changing. And the journey is beautiful!!

So, as of right now, I am working on a new book—hooray! I am also working on several different projects, one of which is an online health and wellness course that I am creating to help people take a few simple steps toward a healthier lifestyle. I am very excited about the upcoming prospects and opportunities that may arise because of the work I am doing. Everything that I am pursuing at this moment is helping me to live my life on my own terms. Life is to be lived!

In the five years since I began my locks, so much about my life and what I thought life should be has changed. I have connected with some beautiful souls as well and have grown in so many other ways. Now, although I am always seeking new information, it is high time that I apply the knowledge to my life, which is exactly what I am doing right now. I have important work to do in my community and abroad. There are many who can benefit from the light that I carry and I fully understand that now.

I want to encourage you to find the work you were created to do and go full force! I have found that finding your purpose is so important to your personal well-being. Once you know the work that you were meant to do and start, life becomes more beautiful. A paycheck should not be your goal. Money and material possessions will not bring the long-lasting joy that we seek but doing purposeful work that has meaning is priceless. Think about it.


Have an Awesome Weekend!!


Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali

My Tribe: An Ode to ATCQ

Peace, love, and light fam! It is my hope that all is awesome with you as always. I am still on cloud 9 after the release of my favorite hip hop group’s final album. If I need to remind you of who I am referring to, let me make it clear—the group is A Tribe Called Quest and the album is “We Got It From Here….Thank You For Your Service” and it is absolutely, unequivocally my favorite ish right now!!

If it sounds like I am a super fan please know that my love of Tribe defies any description. Some may think I exaggerate when I say their music saved my life, but it did. When I was living in a very dysfunctional situation and felt as though there was absolutely no hope for me, Tribe told me to keep going, that it was ok to be “Stressed Out”; that being a nerd, a linguist, was absolutely dope. So, this blog post is dedicated to A Tribe Called Quest.  I will share my feelings on them, some of my all time favorite Tribe bangers, and my thoughts on the new album and why I feel this purchasing this album is necessary for anyone who claims to be a real “hip hop head”.

So, let me say this, I am a lover of all things hip hop. I grew up during the Golden Age of hip hop and though I was undoubtedly a youngster during the 80’s, I was always mature when it came to music. My family is musical so I was exposed to the awesome music of Bloodstone, Earth, Wind, and Fire, Marvin Gaye, Howling Wolf, Ella Fitzgerald, Miles Davis, John Coltrane, and so many others. I have very sophisticated musical tastes even to this day. I fell in love with Tribe when I heard Bonita Applebum in the summer of 1990. I will not reveal how old I was , but I knew that I absolutely loved those guys with the locked hair and the tie dyed shirts. It was a hip hop love song and I was enthralled with them.

My favorite Tribe songs are of course Bonita Applebum, Electric Relaxation, The Hop, Jazz (We’ve Got), Check the Rhime, Sucka Nigga, Lyrics to Go, and Footprints. I love others but these seem to stay in my daily rotation. Phife Dawg was my favorite member of the group and as you all are aware he has transitioned from the physical. His spirit, however, is alive and well.

Their newest release is epic! They effectively applied their original formula and attacked numerous topics and issues within our community. The track titled “We The People” has a powerful  message, speaking of the affluent against the poor and issues we face daily. There were two tributes to Phife  on the album, one titled “The Donald” was bittersweet but so poignant and heartfelt and “Lost Somebody” was a tearjerker for me. I love the album and its message but it is heartbreaking to know that this is it for Tribe. No more albums will come forth. I am, however, very hopeful. Tribe has given rise to great artists and will always be the heartbeat of hip hop. Q-Tip, Phife, Jairobi, and Ali if this blog ever reaches your eyes, please know that this Sistar loves you all–deeply, honestly, and sincerely. Hmmm, I think it’s time for a poem to these pioneers. They deserve it, still trendsetting after all these years.




Ashaki Ma’at Mirembe Ali